“Being triggered does not mean “being upset” or “being offended” or “being angry,” or any other euphemism people who roll their eyes long-sufferingly in the direction of trigger warnings tend to imagine it to mean. Being triggered has a very specific meaning that relates to evoking a physical and/or emotional response to a survived trauma. To say, “I was triggered” is not to say, “I got my delicate fee-fees hurt.” It is to say, “I had a significantly mood-altering experience of anxiety.” Someone who is triggered may experience anything from a brief moment of dizziness, to a shortness of breath and a racing pulse, to a full-blown panic attack. A survivor of sexual violence who experiences a trigger is experiencing the same thing as a soldier who experiences a trigger, potentially even including flashbacks. Like many soldiers who return from war, many survivors of sexual violence are left with post-traumatic stress disorder. Unlike soldiers, however, they are not likely to receive much sympathy, or benefit from attempts to understand, when they are triggered. Instead, triggered survivors of sexual violence are dismissed as oversensitive, as hysterics, as humorless, as weak. Well. Trivializing the concerns of a person whose traumatic experience of sexual violence has been triggered is a legitimate response. But it’s not a very kind or decent one. I will never understand why anyone wants to be the total jerk who evokes someone’s memories of being assaulted by blindsiding hir with a rape joke (or image, or metaphor, or whatever), in the guise of “humor.” No “joke” is worth triggering someone. Not if you understand what triggering someone really means.”— “Survivors Are So Sensitive” (via prettyeyesdirtymouth, skinmemories) (via gotjilk) (via borderlinepersonalitysupport) (via cassket) (via stillskywriting) (via blackenedbutterfly) (via dancingonembers) (via isaltandpeppermymango, skin-memories) (via wakeupwise) (via smarmybastardxvx) (via a-worker-bee) (via iamofthesea) (via humanology)
there is no certainity in this and thats the worst. i understand there is distance, and too much grey-area with how undefined it is but i do not know how well i will be doing if it ends up in the negative.
I’ve been there and it scared me too. It scared me all the way to the emergency room and to six days of hospitalization in a mental hospital. If there is one piece of advice that I could give you from the experience that I’ve had, don’t let them control your thoughts. I think about my ex every single day. I’m giving him control of my mind and you know what? He abused that, several times. Don’t let them define you, yeah I bet you’ve heard that a lot before but after a while it will make more sense. Don’t be scared of what you are feeling right now, don’t have any regrets because feelings aren’t rational thoughts. Feelings are raw and powerful and uncontrollable. If you need to talk, talk. If you need space, have space. If you need someone to hug, I wish I could be there to give you one :)